Bless your heart
"Bless your heart" is a phrase common to the Southern United States.[1][2] The phrase has multiple meanings and is used to express genuine sympathy but sometimes as an insult that conveys condescension, derision, or contempt. It may also be spoken as a precursor to an insult to mitigate its severity. Meanings range from sincerity to exasperation,[3] and are primarily imparted through context and tone.[4] While common in the South, it is primarily used by individuals who wish to "be sweet” and do not wish to "act ugly."[5][6]

Notable examples
In 2016, Nikki Haley, then governor of South Carolina, received extensive press coverage for saying the phrase in response to an attack by presidential candidate Donald Trump.[7][8][9]
Speaking about ex-husband Ben Affleck's large back tattoo of a rising phoenix, Jennifer Garner said, "You know what we would say in my hometown about that? 'Bless his heart.'"[10]
References
- "Aw, Bless Her Heart : Your Southern Decoder Explaining "bless your heart" and everything else". Atlantamagazine.com. November 2012. Retrieved March 2, 2016.
- "'Bless your heart' and 14 other southern sayings yankees just don't understand". AL.com. November 2, 2013. Retrieved March 2, 2016.
- "30 Phrases Only Southerners Use". Southern Living. May 14, 2022. Retrieved April 11, 2023.
- "How To Respond To "Bless Your Heart"". Southern Living. Retrieved September 22, 2022.
- Dyer, Candace (November 1, 2012). "Your Southern Decoder". Atlanta Magazine. Retrieved April 12, 2016.
- Norling, Hannah (July 22, 2015). "The Northern Southerner: Bless My Heart?". Southern Living. Retrieved April 12, 2016.
- Politics. "Nikki Haley dismisses Donald Trump". Business Insider. Retrieved March 2, 2016.
- Krieg, Gregory. "Nikki Haley response to Trump attack: 'Bless your heart' - CNNPolitics.com". Cnn.com. Retrieved March 2, 2016.
- Gass, Nick. "Nikki Haley to Donald Trump: 'Bless your heart'". Politico.com. Retrieved March 2, 2016.
- Smith, Krista (February 26, 2016). "Exclusive: Jennifer Garner's Frank Talk About Kids, Men, and Ben Affleck". Vanity Fair. Retrieved December 22, 2016.