How to Comfort a Girl on Her Period over Text

Co-authored by Donna Novak, Psy.D and Madeleine Criglow

Last Updated: July 31, 2022 References

If you're texting a girl on her period, you likely really want to make her feel better. It can be hard to know what to say sometimes, though, especially over text. Thankfully, there's actually a ton of things you can say to brighten her day and make her feel cared for. This article has a list of suggestions so that you can give your girl the comfort she needs during her time of the month.

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"I've been thinking of you all day.”

This is a simple way to show her that you care. If she's dealing with cramps or mood swings, she might be feeling pretty low. Tell her that she's been on your mind to perk up her spirits and make her feel cared for.
- You might also say, "I hope you're feeling alright. Thinking of you 🙂" or "You've been on my mind, sweetheart."

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"You’re so pretty.”

Sometimes it's hard to feel confident on your period. Dealing with bloating, cramps, and unpredictable moods can really affect a girl's self-image. Remind her how beautiful she is to boost her confidence and make her feel appreciated.^{[1]
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- Alternatively, try, "I hope you remember how beautiful you are!" or "Can't wait to see your gorgeous face tonight."

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"I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this right now 😢”

Validating what she's going through can make her feel better. If she's dealing with painful cramps, a headache, or fatigue, she might just want someone to acknowledge what she's going through. Show compassion for her experience and she'll likely feel cared for and supported by you.^{[2]
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- You might also text, "That sounds so tough" or "You're taking this like a champ! That really sounds so hard."
- Society doesn't always do a great job acknowledging what it's like to have a period every month. You'll distinguish yourself as a standup person if you show her that you understand and empathize with her pain.

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"I hope you know how much I love you.”

If you're in a serious relationship, remind her how much she means to you. Even if you've been dating for years, your girl might need a little more reassurance on her period. Take the time to text her that you love her so that she knows how much you care.
- If you haven't gotten to the "I love you" stage but still want to show your support, you might text, "I'm always here for you."

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"Is there anything I can do to help?”

Even if she doesn't need anything, your offer will mean the world to her. Asking how you can help gives her the chance to articulate her needs. This shows her that you're interested in giving her what she wants and genuinely being there for her.^{[3]
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- You might offer to bring over a hot water bottle to ease her cramps or some pain medication like Advil, Midol, or Pamprin.

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"I’m here to listen if you want to talk about anything.”

Give her a chance to open up to you. She might just want to vent about her cramps or talk about what's on her mind (especially if she's feeling sad). Your listening ear will make her feel truly supported.^{[4]
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- Alternatively, try, "I'm always here if you want to vent" or "You can tell me anything. I'm just here to listen 🙂"^{[5]
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"Can I bring over some chocolate to make you feel better?”

Offering some sweet treats will be a huge comfort. People on their periods usually experience some pretty intense food cravings or might just be a little hungrier than usual. Be attentive to your girl's needs by texting her that you got her some chocolate (or any other tasty treat). It's a simple but effective way to show her that you're there for her.^{[6]
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- As an alternative, bring over other treats like cookies or ice cream. If she doesn't have much of a sweet tooth, you might try her favorite chips or some yummy comfort food (mashed potatoes, chicken noodle soup, macaroni and cheese, etc.).

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"I’m on my way with a movie and some snacks!”

She'll love knowing that you want to spend time with her right now. If she's feeling really down or just not up to leaving the house, offer to come over and hang out with her. You might try bringing along her favorite movie or some fun snacks to make things a little more festive. It'll be a great comfort for her to know that you want to spend time with her even when she's not feeling her best.^{[7]
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"Look how cute this puppy is."

Send her a heartwarming animal picture. Being on your period can make you a little more emotional than usual. Your girl might really need some cheering up, and a cute photo of a dog, cat, or another sweet animal may really do the trick. You might try sending a few to really make her smile.
- If you have a pet, text her a funny picture of them doing something cute. You might also try looking up cute kitten or puppy pictures online if you don't have any pets yourself.

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"Here's something funny to make you smile.”

Text her funny GIFS and jokes to get her mind off the pain. Sharing some laughs is a super effective way to comfort someone and make them feel better. Text her something funny to show her that you want to see her smile again. She'll likely be touched by your effort to lift her spirits.^{[8]
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- Try a GIF from a TV show that she really likes. When in doubt, pick something lighthearted and upbeat, like The Office or Broad City.
- To make her giggle, send her a goofy pun. You might try, "What do you say when an aquatic animal escapes the zoo? It's otter chaos here!"

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"Have you seen this meme?”

Memes are an excellent distraction that can help cheer her up. Pick something lighthearted and positive to brighten her mood and make her remember she still has reasons to smile. She'll love seeing a funny text from you and will appreciate your effort to make her feel better.
- Pick a meme that relates to her interests. If she's into astrology, for example, send a funny astrology meme about her sign with the caption, "I thought this might make you smile 😊"
- If you don't know what to send, try a wholesome meme with a cute message. That might look like a cat giving someone a hug with the caption, "Me giving you love and support."

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"Here’s a song to brighten your day.”

Music can provide a ton of comfort. Send her a video of her favorite song with a sweet caption. She'll be touched that you remember what she likes to listen to and the music will likely bring a smile to her face.
- If you don't know what her favorite song is, try sending a song you think she might like. Add the caption, "I love listening to this song when I'm feeling down. I thought you might like it, too!"

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"Wanna go shopping? I’m free if you’re feeling up to it.”

Being out and about might really help her feel better. She'll appreciate your company, and buying a little something might really lift her spirits. Even window shopping with no intention of buying anything can be a fun way to pass the time, and being by your side will likely make her feel comforted and supported.^{[9]
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- If she's not feeling up to leaving the house, try your best to be understanding. Text her something like, "Well I'm always down to relax at home with you instead" or "I totally get it! Let me know if there's anything I can do to help."
- Maybe she's not super into shopping. As an alternative, ask if she'd like to go on a relaxing stroll through the park.

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"Can I come over to cuddle?”

Some physical affection might really help. Sometimes being on your period can make you feel insecure or unwanted even if there's no reason to feel this way. If she's comfortable, offer to come over to give her some cuddles and affection.^{[10]
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- If physical touch would be comforting to her, you might also offer to give her a back rub.

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"Do you need me to pick up more pads or tampons at the store?”

She might have plenty, but your offer will mean a lot regardless. Unfortunately, people can still be a little squeamish when it comes to buying tampons and pads for their partners. Show her that you're happy to help (and aren't weirded out by it at all) by offering to buy some extra pads or tampons.
- If you're not comfortable asking directly, you could also try, "I'm at the store right now! Is there anything I can pick up for you?" If she needs some extra products, this gives her a chance to let you know.