This article was written by Judith Gottesman, MSW and by wikiHow staff writer, Aly Rusciano. Judith Gottesman is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder of Soul Mates Unlimitedā¢ļø Date Coaching and Matchmaking. With more than 20 years of experience, she specializes in using psychology, attention to detail, and her intuition to create lasting matches. She is known as The West Coast Jewish Communityās Matchmaker, but her dating advice works for everyone. Her work has been featured in numerous national media outlets, such as The New York Times, NPR, and Fox News. Judith is also an author of two books, Your Soul Mate Awaits! and The Lost Art of Dating. She holds a BA in Psychology from The University of California, Berkeley and an MA in Social Work from Yeshiva University.
So, youāve met someone pretty awesome and canāt stop thinking about themāyouāre crushing hard! But how can you start a flirty conversation while also breaking the ice? Whether youāve met IRL or on a dating app, texting or DMing is an excellent way to get to know them. If youāre not sure what to type, no worries because weāve got your back. Take a look at these flirty conversation starters and copy and paste whichever one feels right.
This article is based on an interview with our matchmaker and dating coach, Judith Gottesman, MSW, founder of Soul Mates Unlimitedā¢ļø Date Coaching and Matchmaking. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- If youāve matched on a dating app like Tinder, hint at something from their profile you have in common.
- If you already know them, bring up a shared memory or experience to make them reminisce about you.
- Flirt and compliment them, so they won't be able to resist messaging you back.
Steps
I may or may not have dreamed about you.
I love your profile pic! Where was it taken?
Your dog is ADORABLE! What breed are they?
Iāve been thinking about you.
I saw this at the mall and instantly thought of you.
Thereās something Iāve been wanting to tell you š¤
I see youāre into hockey. I have to admit, Iāve never been to a game.
Iām also a Harry Styles fan! Whatās your favorite song of his?
I went on a single girls trip, and I couldnāt stop thinking about you.
I just had the weirdest date āāš³
If you ever need a date, you know where to find me š
I know weāve just met, but I get butterflies when I think about you.
Calculus is a drag. The only math I want to do is you plus me š
How about I pick you up later?
Am I dreaming, or are you the guy of my dreams?
Who wouldāve thought Iād be lucky enough to match with you?
How about we meet up sometime soon? Iād love to see you!
Congratulations! Youāve just won the prize for the hottest woman on earth š„µš
Does everyone feel this nervous around you? Because youāre amazing.
So, would you rather Netflix and chill or grab a drink downtown?
You look familiar. I think weāve met in my dreams.
So, do you like a guy that makes the first move? š
I need some advice. I want to ask this super hot girl out, but I donāt know how.
I sleep with my socks on. I know itās a deal breaker for some.
So, as a Brit, what do you think of Meghan and Harryās relationship?
Thereās a spider on my ceiling. Can you come over and kill it for me?
Whatās your favorite type of food? Just planning our first date.
If I tell you the silliest thing Iāve ever done, will you tell me the silliest thing youāve ever done?
Top 3 favorite TV showsā¦GO!
I canāt remember the last time we spoke. Letās change that.
I was going to wait to text you again, but I canāt keep my mind off you.
Are you hungry? If so, letās grab something together š
Do you like concerts? I have a spare ticket and would love for you to be my plus one.
Iām feeling crazy. Letās skip the small talk and start flirting š¤Ŗ
I was thinking of deleting Tinder, but man, am I glad I didnāt!
Guess what emoji is next to your name in my phone?
Letās not be strangers. Whatās your favorite color?
I just finished this incredible book I know youād love!
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