Want to stop simping as soon as possible? Being a simp is all about your attitude towards the world. While you may not be able to change that overnight, it’s easy to get started right now. In this article, we’ll walk you through everything you need to know about changing your behavior for the better so that you can land the girl of your dreams, make friends, and enjoy all that life has to offer. Read on to learn more!

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Focus on improving yourself.

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Treat men and women the same.

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Stop trying to find a girlfriend.

  1. You’re more likely to find love if you stop looking for it everywhere. Ever hear the phrase, “A watched pot never boils?” You’re going to be more likely to simp if you make finding a girlfriend your sole mission. On top of that, a lot of girls tend to be attracted to guys who don’t try too hard.[3]
    • By putting your desire to land a girl on the backburner, you’ll stop simping while getting closer to your goal!
    • Enjoy your time with your friends and family. Those relationships will keep you from feeling like you need to go get a girlfriend at this exact moment.
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Stop looking for validation and reassurance.

  1. Wanting other people to like you can make you come off as a simp. If you like the way a shirt looks, wear it. If you love that cheesy 90s song that none of your friends like, pump up the volume with pride. Stop making decisions based on what you think other people find cool and just be yourself. On top of that, it’s super rewarding and freeing to forget about the opinions of others.[6]
    • This will also help you find the girl of your dreams. The woman out there who is authentically attracted to you for you is going to be a much better partner than someone who only knows some version of you.
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Be independent and stay busy.

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Respect the women in your life.

  1. Some people mistakenly think simping is when you’re nice to girls. The thing is, a simp doesn’t respect women—they just pretend to respect women in order to get what they want. Be kind to the women in your life and don’t put anyone down. Try to be an empathetic, open, and kind person. Not only will you be happier, but you’ll be more likely to find a partner, too.[11]
    • A lot of people (especially rude guys) will call people who are friendly and reasonable a simp. If someone in your life is leveling this criticism at you, laugh it off and tell them to get a life.
    • So long as you’re making a conscious decision to treat people with kindness and you aren’t manipulating anyone by being artificially nice, you aren’t a simp.[12]
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John Keegan
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This article was co-authored by John Keegan and by wikiHow staff writer, Eric McClure. John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health. This article has been viewed 15,882 times.
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