How to Stop Staring at a Girl's Boobs

Last Updated: October 27, 2022 References

If you are struggling to keep your eyes off a girl’s chest when you’re talking to her, it’s important that you find a way to do so. Staring can make girls feel uncomfortable and objectified. By keeping a girl’s feelings in mind and practicing a few helpful tricks, you can have an engaging and respectful conversation with her.

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Controlling Your Impulses

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Recognize your impulse to stare. Being mindful of your impulses can help you correct them. Whenever you feel the urge to stare, make a mental note about it. Over time you will recognize triggers that make you want to stare and you can work on ignoring them.^{[1]
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Count slowly to ten in your head if you get the urge to stare. Let the impulse you’re feeling disappear by distracting yourself with counting. If you count to ten and you still want to stare, keep counting higher until the urge is gone.^{[2]
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Substitute staring with something else. Whenever you feel the urge to stare at a girl’s chest, do something else instead. Try looking up at the ceiling, checking your phone, tapping a finger against your palm, or rolling up the sleeves of your shirt. The behavior itself isn’t important; you just want to have a go-to habit that you can do instead of staring whenever you get the urge.^{[3]
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Walk away from the situation if you can’t control yourself. If you or the girl are distressed by your staring, and you can't stop, take a break. Politely end the conversation you’re having and leave. In some cases, it’s better to acknowledge your impulse in your head and remove yourself from the situation than it is to stare.^{[4]
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- For example, you could excuse yourself to go use the restroom.
- Return when you feel calm enough to control your behavior.

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Shifting Your Gaze

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Focus on making eye contact. Not only will making eye contact keep your eyes off of a girl’s chest, it’s also a sign that you’re confident and engaged. To keep your eyes focused on hers, try noticing the color of her eyes or what shape they are. If you’re having trouble maintaining eye contact, try looking at the space in between her eyes instead.^{[5]
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- Remember to look away every so often and don't stare at them in a creepy way. Constant eye contact can also make people feel uncomfortable.
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Stare off to the side when you’re talking to a girl. Smile and nod along while she’s speaking so she knows you’re still engaged. Make eye contact and smile with her every so often so she doesn’t think you’re uninterested. Also do this when you’re speaking. It will look like you’re searching your brain for the right thing to say.
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Point out something interesting you can both look at. If there’s a pretty view outside, point it out to the girl you’re talking to so you both shift your bodies and gazes toward it. If you’re inside, point to a photograph or something else on the wall and say “I’ve never noticed how interesting that is before.” By directing both of your attention elsewhere, it will be easier to not stare at her chest.
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Adjust your seat so you’re both looking in the same direction. If you feel yourself getting distracted and wanting to stare at a girl’s chest, turn your seat so it’s facing the same direction as hers. If you’re facing each other, move your chair so it’s next to hers and continue the conversation while you’re both looking in the same direction.

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Changing Your Thoughts

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Practice breaking the habit of staring. Staring is a habit, and like any other habit, it can be broken. With a conscious effort, you can start having more meaningful and respectful interactions with girls. Practice not looking, and soon you won't.^{[6]
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- When you're with a girl, notice when you look, and remind yourself to look away.
- If you're about to see someone you find attractive, remind yourself not to stare at her.
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Focus your mind on the conversation you’re having. Listen intently to what she’s saying to you and come up with meaningful responses and questions to ask her. Let the conversation distract you from wanting to look at her body.^{[7]
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- For example, if you’re having a conversation about movies, think of a movie you’ve seen recently and tell her about it. Tell her what you liked and didn’t like about it, and answer any questions she has for you.
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Think about the consequences if she catches you staring. She would probably feel uncomfortable and avoid talking to you in the future. She might say something to you about it and cause a scene in front of other people. However she responds, you’ll probably lose out on a meaningful relationship and feel ashamed. Keep these things in mind whenever you feel tempted to stare at a girl’s chest.
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Tell yourself that the girl you’re talking to is a person, not an object. Think about how she is an individual with complex feelings. If you’re having trouble viewing her as a person, try thinking about what her friends and family are like, or what kind of things she might like to do for fun. This will help you relate to her as a person.

Community Q&A

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Why do girls where low-cut shirts if they don't want people to notice their chests?

Community Answer

Girls who wear low-cut shirts do it for different reasons. They might wear a low cut shirt because it's comfortable or because it's hot outside, or because they like the way they look in it. Also, "notice" and "stare" are very different--a girl may not mind if you "notice" her chest, but she will certainly feel uncomfortable if you stare at it.
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How do I stop people from staring at my chest?

Community Answer

If someone is staring at your chest and making you feel uncomfortable, tell them to stop staring. If you don't feel comfortable confronting them, end the conversation you're having with them and walk away.
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What if the girl is far away and you're not talking to her?

Community Answer

Whether you're talking to the girl or not, staring is disrespectful. She could still notice you staring at her from a distance and feel uncomfortable or offended.